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- Your Listening Space Changes Friends
He sat in a booth drinking coffee and listening to me answer four or five questions he posed which changed my life’s trajectory.
I hope you’ve experienced the power of sharing time and space with a friend who knows how to listen. Bouncing ideas, fears, problems, and shortcomings off of our friends helps us make good decisions.
“Why am I telling you this?” When those words leave your lips realize you’ve found a friend with good listening skills.
Listening well helps our friends share their thoughts and their hearts. When a man opens his mouth to share his inner world with a friend who wants to listen good things happen.
Confidence—Talking with a friend strengthens our resolve to live our best life and trust our decisions.
Reality Check—Saying anything out loud forces us to think with clarity and reason. A good listener will challenge our thinking with a well-placed question helping us to think better.
Make Plans—Good listening friends hear our problem and ask, “What are you going to do about it?” then give us space to work out a solution.
You and I don’t have to solve problems for our friends—we need to learn to listen and trust they can solve their problems. You are the expert in your life and can make the best decisions for yourself. But every guy needs a friend to talk to, share, dream, and make a good plan for living.